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2016 Taught Me…


By: Shea Harris

Tis’ the season to make resolutions? I think not. During this point and time of the year, I usually like to reflect on what I’ve gone through. 2016 wasn’t all bad, but most I certainly hit some bumps in the road. From the tears rolling down my face to truly appreciating life. I guess I should probably go into a bit more detail huh? Well here are a few things that 2016 taught me:

Always Love Yourself First

Love yourself girl or nobody will. Okay sounds a bit cliché, but it’s the absolute truth. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always put others in front of me (especially when it comes to love). Last year (to this date) I wrote an article about The Most Important Type of Love for MyBlackMatters. In order to reach my full potential and glow up, I had to make sure that I understood the true meaning of loving myself and being happy with myself. There’s something truly beautiful about feeling completely whole about who you are as an individual. In my case, others acknowledged my happiness before I even did. I was walking around South Florida with a different type of pep in my step and outlook on life.

Stop Belittling Yourself

As confident as I may seem, I often times belittle myself. When it comes to this blog, my business, my career or just about anything, I don’t think I’m really the best person for the task. Sounds super weird, but it’s just something I have experienced and felt throughout this year. I’ve had coworkers ask me questions and I often times question myself and wonder if I’m giving them the right answer. I have friends constantly hitting me up to hang out or simply complementing me and I literally make this face 😳. Like why and the HECK do you want to be around me? It’s about time for me to realize that I’m truly as great as what people see in me.

Let That Hurt Go Baby

Let. It. Go! I had to stop holding onto dead situations. I went through such an odd emotional and mental battle in 2016 when it came to dealing with a break up that had lasted for sometime. I was holding onto a dead situation that would no longer be brought to life. I was so worried about the what if’s that before I knew it, time was passing me by. I didn’t want to let go of someone I considered my friend, but you know what life happens. You have to go into situations with an open mind. Sometimes things will work out and sometimes they won’t, but at the end of the day you have to put yourself and your emotions first. Stop worrying about what people may think and do what’s best for you.

You Do What You Want When You Bloggin’ 

It’s been one year since I started Shea What’s Real and I’m shocked! I didn’t know where this blogging journey would take me, but it’s taken me farther than I expected. I’ve made some bomb friends and connections through Twitter, Instagram and Black Bloggers United, attended events, movie screenings and power hours with some bomb creatives and ultimately just enhanced my vision. I didn’t know how things would pan out with the blog, especially since it was something new for me, but I can honestly say that this journey has helped me emotionally and mentally. In the past I would keep things bottled up, but my blog has allowed me to destress and create in ways I didn’t think were possible.

I know this was a bit lengthy, but hopefully you made it all the way through. I hope and pray your reflections will bring you into a fresh and clean New Year and push you to do more than you could ever imagine.

Peace, Love and Blessings!

See you in 2017!