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I Need Love. Love. Love. Loveeeee.


By: Shea Harris

I figured I’d channel my inner Evolution of Robin Thicke in the title of this post. Oh my gosh, speaking of: that album still makes my heart oh so weak! I can play that album from beginning to end. Okay sorry. I got a bit distracted. Back to the main topic. Love. Oh it’s such a beautiful thing. I honestly don’t know why some people say they can do without it. In a previous blog post, I talked about how I didn’t know what my love language was. Well just so happens, I took a quiz to find it out. After taking the quiz, I feel like I now understand why I do the things I do and act the way I do.

Here are my results:

10 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
6 Acts of Service
5 Physical Touch
0 Receiving Gifts

To be honest I think I knew my love language this entire time, I just didn’t know how to put it into words. I find myself comparing my actions to those around me and I respond differently. I pretty much knew Receiving Gifts wasn’t my love language. Physical Touch, ehhh. I’m a fan of being touched but I’m still struggling with somethings from my past in regards to that. Nothing too extreme, but you know the past will try to haunt you. I’m actually shocked I didn’t score higher in Acts of Service though. I love when people take their time to do an action from their heart and truly share their feelings through actions.

Now let’s finally get into my two high scores: Words of Affirmation and Quality Time.                        The main thing that stuck out to me in  regards to Words of Affirmation was Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important— hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. I absolutely adore when people let me know how they feel about me, especially because I’m pretty vocal about my feelings. It’s something about an I love you or I miss you that just sends me to cloud 9. I know that actions speak louder than words, but when someone says these things with a certain tone or body language, its a wrap.

Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. I mean what more can I say? This pretty much sums up my entire life. If I put aside time out of my day to spend time with you, I pretty much expect for you to respect that time and make the same sacrifice. I do understand everyone doesn’t view sacrifice the same as me, but no matter what I always hope and pray that they do. When plans are cancelled and I was looking forward to hanging out, you pretty much just let me down. Fortunately I’m the type of person who gives like six chances, but once number seven some around…baby I’m sorry. It’s a wrap.

Taking this quiz honestly brought a lot of things to light and made me realize that I don’t have to be like the next person. My love languages are catered to me and how I express myself. Maybe that’s why I’m so quick to go on tangents about how amazing people are or write a little something. Regardless, I have to accept who I am and not force an agenda on people that’s unlike me.

What’s your love language? Let me know below! 🙂


Falling in Love.


By: Shea Harris

It’s been almost a year and I’m happy to say I’ve fallen in love. I haven’t fallen in love with a man, but I’ve fallen in love with a woman named Shea Harris. This past year has been full of ups and downs. I’ve cried, laughed, gotten angry, forgiven, and so much more over this time frame. I didn’t think it was possible, but I fell back in love with myself in a greater way. After moving from North Carolina to South Florida, I started getting back to who exactly Shea was.

I wrote an article for My Black Matters back in December of last year and I look at that message as a reminder. I remind myself that I will not turn back to that woman who continues to give and not receive anything in return. I won’t settle for less. I won’t act as a wife to someone and there’s no ring present. I won’t sit back and allow my emotions to effect my better judgement. If a man loves me and wants to be with me, he will make it known.

I never knew I could fall this deeply in love again, especially with myself. I thought I could only fall this much in love with, well a man. I thought wrong. As soon as I began to pour more attention into myself, God began to open my eyes. He’s opened my eyes to like-minded creatives, creative pathways and so many ideas. The past year has been rough, but I’m so fortunate for the love that has developed from it.

Being selfish this past year has allowed me to take on various opportunities. Without my selfishness, I have no clue what this blog would be looking like. Without my selfishness, I wouldn’t be living in Miami. Without my selfishness, I wouldn’t have been able to reintroduce myself.  I wish I would’ve take advantage of the selfish period sooner but you know, better late than never.

I am a strong, courageous, loving, ambitious black woman who is destined for greatness. I love myself more than I could ever imagine. I love who I have become and the platform I have created to encourage and inspire individuals. I love that I am untouchable, unbreakable, and unshakeable. Taking this past year to learn myself all over again has been more than rewarding. If you would’ve told me a year ago I would be blogging right now, I would’ve laughed at you in your face. I’m so thankful for the avenues this journey has brought me through and I look forward to so much more!

I challenge you to fall in love with yourself again. Remember why you create, why you inspire and why you are enough.